As I write this, my friend Dana is walking miles in my name, up and down the hills of San Francisco to raise money for breast cancer research with thousands of other participants on the Avon Walk. I could not feel more proud of such an honor.
Actually I was supposed to be walking alongside Dana. Due to circumstances beyond my control I was not able to do the training. But I’m there with Dana in spirit. And although I couldn’t join her doing something worthwhile and healthy in the fresh air, at least I’m outdoors too. Well, sort of–the restaurant does have an outside patio. Where instead of walking, I’m eating dinner–along with V, my son Daniel, and another family I’ll call the Bensons.
I was shocked to realize that I haven’t mentioned Daniel yet since I started blogging– because if you talk to me for 10 minutes you would hear me mention him at least 10 times. I’ll write more about Daniel, but right now I’m far more focused on something else that I love (although not quite as much): chocolate.
At this restaurant where we are tonight, they have a very popular and incredibly decadent dessert, which is a freshly baked chocolate chip cookie the size of your face, brought to the table fresh out of the oven in the skillet it was baked in, topped with ice cream and whipped cream. (This is fortunately not one of those restaurants whose menu lists how many carbs or calories you are eating.)
I am very proud tonight to see Daniel demonstrate how much I’ve taught him –and prove how responsible he is….-because on his own, he remembered that you have to order this dessert at least 20 minutes ahead of time—and he stopped our waitress and ordered the cookie in advance without even being prompted.
There’s an elegant etiquette involved in sharing a dessert with a group. Not often followed in the privacy of the family home, the routine is typically observed in public places and especially when sharing a meal with people who are not related.
The dessert is set on the table with a flourish. Each person waits politely for someone to take the first bite. That person gently dips a fork into the dessert, savoring it, as the other diners gradually take up their forks, and the ballet begins—the graceful ebb and flow, forks forward and back, sometimes in rythmn, as peaceful as a summer breeze, floating around the table, everyone joining in a delicate and almost musical balance of timing, motion, and flow.
This culinary tableau presents the perfect opportunity for me to describe more about my son. I’m proud that Daniel has inherited a multitude of personal qualities from me, and 3 of them are on particular display tonight.
#1–A deep and powerful attraction to consume chocolate and anything else that is sweet
#2—an ability to eat faster than anyone else
#3–a complete lack of self consciousness or shame when demonstrating the other two qualities
Our waitress approaches with our freshly baked dessert, its aroma wafting over the other diners surrounding us. She places the dessert in the center of our table, still piping hot and steaming in its skillet–and she distributes forks to all 7 of us. I am seated strategically in the center of the table, directly in front of the skillet. Daniel has the least advantageous position at the far end of the table, but the advantage of being over six feet tall with a long reach.
There’s no fanfare to start, but I’m fairly certain that the first person to pierce the cookie is me, followed closely by Daniel. The rest is a blur. I remember very briefly pausing to mentally salute Dana on her birthday, walking 13 miles in my name. But Dana is in San Francisco and on the table in front of me, the ice cream is melting. The Bensons are politely stretching their forks toward the cookie, ready to join the mix as soon as someone moves a fork out of the way. One of us would have to pause momentarily to allow the Bensons into the inner circle. But we don’t stop although we adore the Bensons.
V has his strategy down from years of breaking bread with Daniel and me. He shoves his fork in quickly, loading it with as much of the cookie, ice cream and whipped cream as it can possibly hold. After this one heroic effort, he backs off. He knows to stay out of the way as Daniel and I polish off the entire contents of the skillet. The Bensons never had a chance.